Boundaries and Giving

[Shara]

Hello to All,

  I have been reading with interest the post of the last several days, and thought I would throw in some thoughts.  First off-just Thanks for posting all this cool stuff-I really learn by reading your experiences-on some level I feel it all juggling around in there without thinking about it too much!

 Mystress, I am going to re-read your last post on the dynamics of Male-Female relationships.  The things you have said are certainly true for my Man!  Took me lots of confusion and time to figure out the utter simplicity of it all.( Sometimes I wonder if simplicity is the last thing I look at)-I really think, though it must be hard on Men to understand the beautiful complexity and mystery of a Woman-LOL!  

 Lately, I find myself striving for a balance between healthy boundaries and giving.  All these posts on vampirism are so interesting because I have found myself struggling to protect myself (from typical family crap-o-la)-and at the same time all this "protecting" was heart-closing.:-(  I think I am starting to see that -dare I sound too corny?-Love is the best defense.  So-I feel I am on the cusp of something here...to keep my heart open and maintain healthy boundaries.  I'm not there yet....but I'll get there.

  I've been enjoying the lessons- I have been reading quite a bit about the Divine Beloved and the Sacred Marriage.  By the way, I wasn't in touch with my DB while all that protecting was going on-He's a sly fox, who will only come to me through the doorway of my heart these days.  Maybe it's always been that way-don't know.  
             Anyway...Blessings, Shara

[Mystress]

: Hello to All,

:    I have been reading with interest the post of the last several days, and thought I would throw in some thoughts.  First off-just Thanks for posting all this cool stuff-I really learn by reading your experiences-on some level I feel it all juggling around in there without thinking about it too much!

cool! Glad you are enjoying.

:   Mystress, I am going to re-read your last post on the dynamics of Male-Female relationships.  The things you have said are certainly true for my Man!  Took me lots of confusion and time to figure out the utter simplicity of it all.( Sometimes I wonder if simplicity is the last thing I look at)-I really think, though it must be hard on Men to understand the beautiful complexity and mystery of a Woman-LOL!  

You know it is... they cannot understand us, but we can understand them by watching them, reading them.

:   Lately, I find myself striving for a balance between healthy boundaries and giving.  All these posts on vampirism are so interesting because I have found myself struggling to protect myself (from typical family crap-o-la)-and at the same time all this "protecting" was heart-closing.:-(  I think I am starting to see that -dare I sound too corny?-Love is the best defense.

That idea is never too corny! The heart knows no boundaries, trying to create boundaries in it, makes it close. It is the power chakra that handles boundaries, and it will always tell you when you are giving too much, when your actions are karma or dharma, or when someone is pushing your boundaries.

: So-I feel I am on the cusp of something here...to keep my heart open and maintain healthy boundaries.  I'm not there yet....but I'll get there.

Yes, you will!

:    I've been enjoying the lessons- I have been reading quite a bit about the Divine Beloved and the Sacred Marriage.  By the way, I wasn't in touch with my DB while all that protecting was going on-He's a sly fox, who will only come to me through the doorway of my heart these days.  Maybe it's always been that way-don't know.  
:               Anyway...Blessings, Shara
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I don't know either, but the DB sure does have wily ways to train us!

 Well, I am off to the beach! Blessings...