Empathy and healing.

[Mystress]

 I am a little surprised by the recent influx of overwhelmed empaths in the group. While much of what I have touched on in these recent posts regarding how to deal with empathy, is mentioned somewhere in the course, the nuts and bolts of emotional energy and karma, and how it flows between people was intended to be covered in the next section of the course.

 For one simple reason. I absolutely do not want any of you to try to be heroes, healers or saviors at this stage of the process. You have to focus inward, and take the stone from your own eye first. Until you have cleared all of your own karma triggers, issues, etc., and become totally grounded and fed from source within yourself, you will not have the discernment or the stability to be an effective healer. You will be a hazard to yourself and the people you try to "fix".

 I did it ass backwards. It seemed the only escape from sharing other people's misery was to try to help them feel better so I did not have to feel their suffering anymore. That led me through years of painful learning via mistakes, as I discovered how completely fucked up the river without a paddle you get, if your happiness depends on what someone else does. Don't go there.
  Change the world by changing inside of yourself.

  Yes, this annoyance of empathy can be a great and beautiful gift. It is through empathy that you manifest the experience of being "All that Is". It is through empathy that I am the vessel of the wisdom and healing miracles that amaze you.

  However, empathic healing is incredibly dangerous. Even with my experience I still crash and burn once in a while. It is not so bad for me, because I have the faith and experience to know that it is just a phase.. an arising, and Goddess will always bungee cord me out of there, and so She does. I also have a number of healers in my personal life, whom I have trained... and they are always happy to toss me a rope and haul me out of a stuck place, if I bite off more karma than I can chew. Sometimes I even train people to heal, by being their guinea pig and letting them practice on whatever stray debris I may be carrying, at the time.

  I have been down the road between heaven and hell so many times, I cannot get lost along the way. That is not the case, for those of you who are walking the path for the first time.

  I know one professional healer to takes a week to ten days off every month, to just meditate and clear herself of all the leftover crap she takes on, doing healing. It is just part of the job. A trash collector needs a shower after coming home from work, more than a receptionist does. A healer has to dedicate at least 1/3 of their time, to keeping themselves clean.

  Mindfullness of energy hygiene and surrender, plus time turns into a clear energy body. When your energy body is clear, then it is possible to learn about how karma works, by watching it in action, like watching fish swimming in a clear pond. Then to understanding how to affect it, and more importantly, when not to try.

 For me, this karma stuff is not mysterious. It has form, energy, structure, patterns, and the stuff that it is made of, responds to the power of thought and imagination. I can predict how it will flow between people, like a plumber knows his pipes. To a certain extent, depending on the surrender I am given, I can shape it like silly putty and make it tell stories.  

  It is simply, prana .. like the little comets of light you see around trees, trapped into form, usually by fear. Frozen into shape of belief or emotional baggage, and when it is thus frozen and cannot move, it turns dark and becomes blockages, poison. Shadowy and immobile like a frozen lake... and yet it can be passed around and shared from person to person. What ever information is stuck in it, affects how you think act and feel about things. How you see and respond to your world. Karma pulling your strings. When you surrender it, Goddess turns it back into pure light and energy... and sometimes insights into what information was stuck in it.

 Some of you have the potential to become wonderful healers, if you want to.. but first you have to be your own guinea pig, and practice on yourself.

   Blessings...

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:   I am a little surprised by the recent influx of overwhelmed empaths in the group. While much of what I have touched on in these recent posts regarding how to deal with empathy, is mentioned somewhere in the course, the nuts and bolts of emotional energy and karma, and how it flows between people was intended to be covered in the next section of the course.

:   For one simple reason. I absolutely do not want any of you to try to be heroes, healers or saviors at this stage of the process. You have to focus inward, and take the stone from your own eye first. Until you have cleared all of your own karma triggers, issues, etc., and become totally grounded and fed from source within yourself, you will not have the discernment or the stability to be an effective healer. You will be a hazard to yourself and the people you try to "fix".

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You give me more credit of consciousness of what is going on then I deserve.  I am not aware of this happening.  I simply feel the consequences.  I don't think?? I am trying to fix anyone or anything,I am simply open to the energy that is happening.  This goes back to an earlier concern I had about levels of consciousness, where as, I don't really have a handle on it.  I hear you saying I need to find a way to keep my focus inward upon myself and not be so open to what is floating out there?? That I feel is my problem.  

I must say that reading all of the recent posts from Sean, Leslie and you Mystress have made me cry because I have never had anyone who understood to talk to about all this. When I have talked about what goes on with me, people just sort of look at me and then I feel stupid and wish I had said nothing.  I am soooo grateful to have found you.  THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU.  I love you all.  My whole life I have been told "you are too sensitive"  and YES I AM! I am so happy to see there are others who know of what I speak.  
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:   I did it ass backwards. It seemed the only escape from sharing other people's misery was to try to help them feel better so I did not have to feel their suffering anymore. That led me through years of painful learning via mistakes, as I discovered how completely fucked up the river without a paddle you get, if your happiness depends on what someone else does. Don't go there.
:    Change the world by changing inside of yourself.

:    Yes, this annoyance of empathy can be a great and beautiful gift. It is through empathy that you manifest the experience of being "All that Is". It is through empathy that I am the vessel of the wisdom and healing miracles that amaze you.

:    However, empathic healing is incredibly dangerous. Even with my experience I still crash and burn once in a while. It is not so bad for me, because I have the faith and experience to know that it is just a phase.. an arising, and Goddess will always bungee cord me out of there, and so She does. I also have a number of healers in my personal life, whom I have trained... and they are always happy to toss me a rope and haul me out of a stuck place, if I bite off more karma than I can chew. Sometimes I even train people to heal, by being their guinea pig and letting them practice on whatever stray debris I may be carrying, at the time.

:    I have been down the road between heaven and hell so many times, I cannot get lost along the way. That is not the case, for those of you who are walking the path for the first time.

:    I know one professional healer to takes a week to ten days off every month, to just meditate and clear herself of all the leftover crap she takes on, doing healing. It is just part of the job. A trash collector needs a shower after coming home from work, more than a receptionist does. A healer has to dedicate at least 1/3 of their time, to keeping themselves clean.

:    Mindfullness of energy hygiene and surrender, plus time turns into a clear energy body. When your energy body is clear, then it is possible to learn about how karma works, by watching it in action, like watching fish swimming in a clear pond. Then to understanding how to affect it, and more importantly, when not to try.
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:   For me, this karma stuff is not mysterious. It has form, energy, structure, patterns, and the stuff that it is made of, responds to the power of thought and imagination. I can predict how it will flow between people, like a plumber knows his pipes. To a certain extent, depending on the surrender I am given, I can shape it like silly putty and make it tell stories.  

:    It is simply, prana .. like the little comets of light you see around trees, trapped into form, usually by fear. Frozen into shape of belief or emotional baggage, and when it is thus frozen and cannot move, it turns dark and becomes blockages, poison. Shadowy and immobile like a frozen lake... and yet it can be passed around and shared from person to person. What ever information is stuck in it, affects how you think act and feel about things. How you see and respond to your world. Karma pulling your strings. When you surrender it, Goddess turns it back into pure light and energy... and sometimes insights into what information was stuck in it.

:   Some of you have the potential to become wonderful healers, if you want to.. but first you have to be your own guinea pig, and practice on yourself.

:     Blessings...

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[Sean]

Hello hello,

I like you Light. Not many know how it feels to try to express themselves and getting those looks, or just getting ignored. Or hearing those words... too sensitive.... Its great that you are here and can start understanding about yourself, just like me. Go ahead and tell all about how you feel, get it out. That's what I am learning to do. I for one will totaly understand you, and probably everyone else will too.

I got a book a while ago by Elain Aron "The Highly Sensitive Person" I kept going "AAAHH HAAAAAHH!" throughout the book. It made me feel a lot better to know that I was not alone in feeling like this and I was not an alien on this planet. Also put a lot of things into place as to why I do things the way I do. I cried too when I found out about this. Its a great thing to finally find someplace where you can be understood, and say to yourself.. I am not alone!

Take care of you,

Sean

: I must say that reading all of the recent posts from Sean, Leslie and you Mystress have made me cry because I have never had anyone who understood to talk to about all this. When I have talked about what goes on with me, people just sort of look at me and then I feel stupid and wish I had said nothing.  I am soooo grateful to have found you.  THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU.  I love you all.  My whole life I have been told "you are too sensitive"  and YES I AM! I am so happy to see there are others who know of what I speak.  
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[Mystress]

: Light Wrote:    
: You give me more credit of consciousness of what is going on then I deserve.  I am not aware of this happening.  I simply feel the consequences.  I don't think?? I am trying to fix anyone or anything,I am simply open to the energy that is happening.  This goes back to an earlier concern I had about levels of consciousness, where as, I don't really have a handle on it.  I hear you saying I need to find a way to keep my focus inward upon myself and not be so open to what is floating out there?? That I feel is my problem.  

There are many mythologies around, about why there seem to be so many empaths alive these days, and I have tried most of them on for size, but do not necessarily endorse any of them. simply because the part of the mind that seeks to explain and understand, is not usualy smart enough to really know...
 Most of them revolve around the idea of "mass consciousness shift", the birth of the "New Age".. Ascension, yadda yadda. Depending on which one you look at, there can be some crazy stuff out there. You could be persuaded that it is because you are an alien in a human form, come to rescue us all, or because you are a super evolved prodigy of evolutions next big leap, or you are here to eat sin and thus prevent armageddon.. la la la.

It *appears* that there are a lot more people "waking up" these days, and a lot more people having problems with empathy. However, it could simply be a side effect of the communications revolution, that we are finding each other. The idea of the compassionate Boddhisattva who incarnates to take on the karma of the world is a pretty ancient idea, and most of the new age stuff is a retelling of that same myth.

 What I am really telling you, is that what you choose to believe affects your perceptions, and sometimes it is best not to try too hard to understand. I think that nobody really knows... but we each have a story, because the stories give our ego comfort. All that really matters, is to find a story that helps you to surrender, because resistance makes it all so messy.  

 When I need an explanation, I look at it like this: the planet is also going through K. awakening. Keeping in mind, that we tend to see the Earth as a symbol of our own bodies.

I say, "change the world by changing inside of yourself", because ego likes to hear that it can change the world, and so it has a good reason to surrender. If you are really egoless and enlightened, you see perfection in the world just as it is, and perfection in yourself... so there is no need to change anything.

Generally, the new age mythology, distilled to essence, is thus:  There is something called the Schumann resonance, and I am not a scientist, but it is essentially a measurement of the planetary electro-magnetic field. Over the last ten years or so, it has increased from around 7, when they first started measuring, to about 11. It has affected aircraft navigation, etc. Just as K. brings up the buried stuff within you, it is also bringing up the buried stuff in the Earth, and in the collective, and in everybody. Some of us are better at transmuting it than others, and so we do more than our share. We chose to incarnate and do the work, because assisting a planet to ascend is a very exciting project.
It is a theory, that the increase of the Schumann resonance and the increasing numbers of awakening people is connected in an increasing spiral. The higher the planetary vibe gets, the more easily people awaken, and the more people awaken, the higher the vibe of the planet gets because we carry it along, and so the more people awaken... till the whole planet "ascends" into a higher vibration of peace and love. The "Lightworker" mythology is that many of us incarnated here for the purposes of playing nursemaid to evolution by consciously transmuting the Earth's karma. This is an ancient idea, and another name for the work is "karma yoga", and it is the yoga of service to other by processing their stuff.

 If you are feeling beat up by empathy, it can be a very comforting story to tell yourself, and if it gives your ego a sense of higher purpose and assists you to surrender, then use it. On the levels of duality, it is true if you believe it, and there are millions who do.
  However, when you are not feeling beat up, remember that if time and space do not exist, then there is no past or future and the whole concept of evolution is a game of Maya. This will keep you from getting too attached to the idea, because you cannot take it with you, where you are going.

  I do not want you to try to be healers, that is an ego trap. I do want you to learn how energy flows between people, and learn to understand how you are Goddess of your own life, and your beliefs create your results. This is learning to cope and adjust, and get out of your own way.

 I have no magic wand to wave, to take away the pain of empathy. I cannot, is it As Goddess Wills. You have to accept it like puberty, part of your growing path. We learn to get ourselves out of the way, we learn to cope. Evetually, we learn to appreciate the miraculous intimacy that it is.

 You cannot ever make it completely go away, because it is how Goddess experinces being All that Is, through us... You are All that Is, and this is proven to you every time you focus your attention on something, and become that. Hello! LOL!!  
 Through empathy, your consciousness expands.

  I am not telling you to go hide out in a cave and gaze at your navel for ten years so that you never project anything ever again. Projections, like judgments are inevitable, and trying to get completely free of them is a humbling experience... yet, the focus teaches you to be mindful and have discernment, to find the ego resistance that makes things painful and let it go.

The less ego you have to complain about broken boundaries, the less it will hurt to not have any. It is painful as the ego walls crumble, their illusions of separation smashed with every empathic episode, but as they fall, you start getting more of the sweet side of the deal. More light coming in. You start to see, through Goddess' eyes... and She sees beauty and perfection.

  We learn to clear the triggers from ourselves, so that we may see beauty in the external that is ourselves reflected. If you can surrender it, see beauty in it, be grateful for it... then it changes. It may still be painful, but there is a sweetness to it. A blissful pain like a hot bath or a good deep massage.

: I must say that reading all of the recent posts from Sean, Leslie and you Mystress have made me cry because I have never had anyone who understood to talk to about all this.

This is beauty, and it is painful, and sweet. Beauty can make you cry. We speak of something being "terribly beautiful", and it is true there is a sweetness of poignant beauty to the essential human condition that can rip your guts out and make you helpless not to love it. No resistance. Beautiful tragedy, like Romeo and Juliet. The beauty and the hopelessness makes us cry, and we go back to the story again and again, a thousand hollywood versions. This is the stuff of Art, and Art imitates Life.
 We measure the artist, by how well they are a slave to their muse... how transparent they are to the Divine creativity moving through them.  

:When I have talked about what goes on with me, people just sort of look at me and then I feel stupid and wish I had said nothing.  I am soooo grateful to have found you.

Beauty. Beauty in the joy at finding kin, and beauty in the terrible rush of the pain of loneliness releasing, the fires of transmutation turning it to tears that gently fall and water the misty smile to grow bigger... yes, my beloveds... the beauty of being an empath among empaths, is an acceptance and an intimacy that few ever know, or even can dream that it really exists. They reach for it unconsciously with sex and drugs, but it is like trying to slake thirst with wine.
 You can be yourself here. We see you and feel you, we are you.

 When you have felt such isolation, as most empaths do at the earlier part of the path, it can be easy to comfort yourself with the idea that you are an alien in a human body, or somehow "special"... (not you, specifically, I'm just expounding) and much of the new age mythology is geared towards persuading you of this, in order to aim your energy at that particular groups agenda.
 This potential is within everyone, and yet not everyone incarnates to experience it. Some people are here to play the illusion game for real, all the way through to the end without asking for an exit as we did. They are Goddess too. She does not play favorites. Limitless manifestation wants to experience every experience that there can be and does not judge whether the experience of terror is better than bliss.
 You wanted to bring people into your world so they could understand you, as you can intimately move into knowing them... but they might not be here for that, and they resisted.
 Ya know, most empaths and Kundalites start out as a preacher, wanting to share the discoveries if only to share the pain, and end up understanding that mystery schools have mysteries because there is no point, and only pain in sharing it with people who don't care. Who do not live or want to live in the universe where magic works.

 The rejection hurt, but it too was Goddess love. It kept you moving till you found the place where you belong, and it made sure you did not settle for less. You see, it is the ego that judges it painful, that makes it painful.

: THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU.  I love you all.  My whole life I have been told "you are too sensitive"  and YES I AM!

Yes you are, and it is a gift you have not found a use for yet, so it looks like a big white elephant stepping on your toes. However, it is OK to honor it, and be gentle with yourself, in choosing the company you keep. That your empathy follows your attention, is a neat lesson plan in mindfullness, noticing what you give your attention to, and whether it serves you.

:I am so happy to see there are others who know of what I speak.  
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 You know, the quote that heads up the front page of this site was chosen very carefully:

  "Come my friends, 'tis not too late to seek a newer world."

Tennyson

  I did my time as a lightworker and UFO chaser, and looking through all the various new age stuff on ascension, channelling, etc. I had to set it all aside, to attain self realization. That is when I discovered that the Earth is already ascended, always has been, and there have always been people who moved back to Eden/heaven/nirvana  without leaving the planet, and stayed there.

  Some of them we know about, our famous Yogis, saints and saviors. Many more, moved on the earth invisible to the awareness of the non empaths around them, having no need to change the world.

 I will close with a story: Do you know how those famous old books of the wisdom of Confucious came to be written? Confucious was retiring, and on his way out of China to spend the rest of his days meditating in a monastery in Tibet. A border guard was one of his students, and would lot allow him to leave China until Confucious  had written down all of his teachings so they could be preserved as the national treasure that they are.

 The creation of this course, is a similar story...

  Like my healer friend that I mentioned, it is time for me to be quiet for a few days, clear some gunk and regain my buddhahood.. LOL!! something like that... Light, you can contact me if you want an appointment, I'll make time for you but otherwise I need to take a break from caring for you all, and go within for a few days.
   Blessings!