Juergen... I do not "have" a Divine Beloved. I am It. Sacred marriage= Divine Androgyne. The Beloved disappears, with realization and the end of separation.
In the process of fire there is the moment of triumph(chemical reaction/explosion) where one side gets it all and the other gives it all, gives in (:)/sigh). Again a paradox: getting = giving. The triumph is for both with mutual reinforcement: the fire itself getting more supply -- the wood growing dry(er) to the point of combustion. Burning desire and willing will *merging* in a cycle toward bliss.
Still, it's unity of (2) parties.
This is at the moment how it looks to me; guess it corresponds to the *Mother*-aspect of 3nity.
But a similar analogon can certainly be found with the *Crone*/Shadow(where triumph is to be replaced by disappointment for being rejected; also a growing building process like with the wood getting dryer, however where the desired reaction won't take place; protective hygiene measure; no wood can reach combustion quality, no fire will spread; also ok).
As for the *Maiden* i think She is the blank sheet(hunch) for getting filled by both: the bliss of burning desire as well as the bliss of growing willing will; still undecided. The driving force of curiosity.
Motivation, survival.
So each aspect of the trinity has its double side: fire/desire itself, and (good-natured)dry wood=combustibility, growing building willing will.
Giving 6(Hexagramm); maybe something for to hex :)
Androgyny would be my preferred term for SM(sacred marriage, what else :) ) in women.
Gynandrism the (my?) complementary term for men.
Finally, i dare only to conclude: Self You I, ...has always the character of unity, to some degree or another.
Fieryly :)
juergen