I%rsquove been working on unattaching those cords discussed in the %ldquoMagical Ethics%rdquo lesson.
It%rsquos an excellent diffuser. I remembered to do that, instead of stewing for hours, when a
*loved* one decided he needed to push my buttons. He must%rsquove needed a fix. And
sipping *my* energy back feels good as well. I%rsquom working on retrieving all the energy
that has been stolen by him.
A grrlfriend called me to discuss getting a divorce. I told her if she wasn%rsquot dying, that it
wasn%rsquot worth it - that divorce is much harder than marriage. In the course of the
conversation she said she knew he would make her out to be the bad guy.....but she
wouldn%rsquot wish anything bad to happen to him, and had never been that way about ppl. I
told her divorce could change that about her.
Sometimes, when the ex has done something incredibly mean, my thoughts can go south,
and i wish for retribution, etc., and i *don%rsquot* *care* what happens to me because of them.
How does one deal with this kind of passion?
Peace,
carla
i suppose the roots of your anger may lie within, or have some reason why they are not releasing now that the relationship is over...
aside from whatever work you have to do on your anger within, finding another lover who is worthy of you might do alot to help you feel better...
when i became chronically ill, my fiancee and girlfriend of 10 years left me (yep, both of them! hehehehe... just kiddin, she was one and the same...)
it felt like i might be alone forever... i grieved for about 6 months... then i decided to find another lover, and found out very quickly that i was still loveable... actually, i met my current wife through a personals ad in the Village Voice...
in the immortal words of Roz from "Frasier": "the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone..."
warmly,
percyval
Yea - it was kindof a rhetorical question. I guess it%rsquos like i get caught in the view from
the power chakra(?) and growl and curse and tell myself i%rsquoll take full responsibility for
the growls and curses, whatever they may bring. Then i leave there, and wonder if the
universe accepts that i was venting or does the karma come back anyway. I don%rsquot see
many of the results of my rants. Those that i have seen were positive, even though they
were backfires.
:aside from whatever work you have to do on your anger within, finding another lover
:who is worthy of you might do alot to help you feel better...
: ) I haven%rsquot considered that, really, but reading it here makes a lot of sense. I%rsquove been
convincing myself that someone else is too much of a distraction. Besides the fact that i
can%rsquot seem to maintain a comfortable distance. It could be that %ldquoone who is worthy%rdquo of
me is the qualifier that%rsquos missing! lol. That%rsquos what it is! : ) I%rsquoll offer the issue to
Goddess and see what/who She sends me.
:when i became chronically ill, my fiancee and girlfriend of 10 years left me (yep, both of
:them! hehehehe... just kiddin, she was one and the same...)
:it felt like i might be alone forever... i grieved for about 6 months... then i decided to find
:another lover, and found out very quickly that i was still loveable... actually, i met my
:current wife through a personals ad in the Village Voice...
:in the immortal words of Roz from "Frasier": "the best way to get over someone, is to get
:under someone..."
What a rollercoaster ride this life takes us on. It%rsquos cool that you said you felt %lsquoalone%rsquo
rather than %lsquolonely%rsquo while you grieved. They are such different things. It seems i prefer
alone and i%rsquom rarely lonely. But i can%rsquot deny the wisdom in the words of roz. You%rsquove
given me another perspective to contemplate. : )
Peace,
carla